We have been asked the magic question “What do you want to be when you grow up?” since preschool and for many people, their answers have changed almost every time they’ve been asked. As boys realize it’s unlikely that they will be a superhero, a famous child actor, the next man on the moon, or a professional basketball player, football player, and baseball player at the same time, they begin to question if they have a realistic answer to that question to give people. Helping young adults with no direction starts with making realistic goals and letting go of pipe dreams.
Be Realistic About Shaping Your Goals
As rates of postsecondary education have increased, young adults are graduating from college less prepared for their roles than in previous generations. In a recent study by C+R Research, they found that “the jobs most teens want don’t fit into the current workplace reality. Just 1 percent of the teens surveyed want an office, support administrative or sales position when they start their careers, despite those jobs making up 25 percent of today’s workforce. On the flip side, 20 percent of those surveyed want a job in the arts, design, entertainment, sports and media occupations, even though those careers represent just 2 percent of the American workforce.” As teens begin to apply to college or consider entering the workforce, it is becoming more common for their answer to the magic question to be “I have no idea” or “I don’t know anymore.”
Common Beliefs Associated with a Lack of Direction
- “I don’t want to do what my parents want me to do.”
- “I don’t know what I’m good at.”
- “I’ll never be able to make money doing what I want.”
- “I’m not good at school. Even though I want a degree, I’m scared I’ll fail out of college.”
- “I’m scared of making the wrong decision.”
- “Nothing really interests me.”
- “It would take too long to be qualified for what I really want to do.”
“Follow your passion” oversimplifies the problem of not knowing what to do with your life. Many young adults have not had the opportunities to explore their passions and find it challenging to know where to start if they struggle with depression, anxiety, and social interactions.
How Foundations Can Help
Academic and Career Growth. We create individualized plans for each student based on what their personal goals may be for the future. Students can choose to take classes at the local community college, volunteer with local organizations, or look for jobs. We support students by teaching job skills, helping with resumes, and coaching students through the interview process.
Social Integration. Living in a home-like environment, students work on communication skills and engage in group activities to help them build healthy and supportive relationships.
Personal Health and Fitness. We emphasize that emotional health is tied to physical health and encourage students to go to the gym and get involved in outdoor activities. We encourage students to develop healthy habits regarding sleep, nutrition, and physical activity that improve their overall well-being.
Hobbies and Interests. Many students find their role by exploring different interests. We encourage outdoor activities, music, art, and reading to help students tap into their creative energy and expand their perspectives.
Financial Management. We teach students how to create a budget and save up for future opportunities.
Functional Living Skills help students navigate the path to independence. These skills include cooking, cleaning, shopping, self-care, emotion-regulation, conflict-resolution, and relationship-building.
Foundations Asheville is a program for males ages 18-24 who are struggling to launch into adulthood. This program is committed to helping young men develop and sharpen the skills they need to be successful in the real world. There is a focus on teaching students how to enter the workforce, develop vocational trades, and functional living skills. Foundations Asheville gives young men the opportunity to gain confidence, find their purpose, and learn useful skills that will help them navigate through the adult years. We can help your family today!