You Can Do This: Overcoming Self Doubt

We’re all familiar with the little voice that lives in the back of our minds that whispers: “What if…”. What if I embarrass myself? What if I fail? What if no one likes it? What if no one likes me? What if they find out I’m an imposter? What if I’m wrong? This little voice of self doubt causes us to second guess our actions or achievements. 

For some of us, the voice is louder than for others. But no matter the volume of that voice, there are ways to address and overcome that self doubt. 

Give it a name. That little voice of self doubt is not your true voice. Try separating it from yourself by giving it a name. If you’ve named your doubt Gina, you can begin to shift your internal narrative. Now it is no longer you who does not believe you can succeed, but rather Gina is being negative again. That separation between your self talk and your self doubt allows you to step back and take a more objective view of the situation. If you’re worried about being embarrassed during a presentation, ask yourself: “What really is the worst that will happen?”. Gina may tell you that everyone will laugh at you and think you’re inept, but really, what will happen? Chances are, Gina is being much harder on you than anyone in a classroom or work presentation. 

Give yourself credit. When you feel doubt creeping in about your abilities, personally or professionally, think back about everything you have accomplished. If you think you won’t be considered for a promotion because you’re not “good enough” at the job, remember all the goals you have reached so far. You’ve gotten where you are through your skills and hard work. Remember that when doubt starts to rear its head. 

Practice. Years of self doubt will not be erased right away. Changing your internal dialogue takes practice. Try saying positive affirmations out loud when those feelings of doubt begin. When you question if you will fail, try an affirmation such as: “I am confident and capable. I am open to new experiences.” Saying these words out loud teaches our brains to accept these new thoughts and the more we do it, the more it will become a habit. 

Find your support system. If you’re finding it challenging to overcome self doubt, be gentle with yourself and know that it will come with time. Finding a support system, such as family or friends, who can help you identify the thoughts that are true through the doubts can make a big difference. This support system sees you as you really are and can help remind you of all your positive qualities and abilities. If you do not have a support system of family or friends, a mental health professional can work with you to change your internal dialogue. 

Foundations Asheville Can Help

The young adults served by Foundations Asheville come to the program with a wide variety of experience and a myriad of goals, but are interested in actively working toward a greater degree of independence in their daily lives. Our team partners with young adults to establish viable goals. Then, we work side-by-side with each individual to support and encourage the realization of those goals. For more information please call (877) 318-7273.

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